Whatever your next step is, you are going to be held back from taking it until you become confident in yourself, your skills, and your creativity.
Here’s the story.
Imagine for a second that you know you are a creative person. This may or may not be true. Either way, it’s not the time to have the I’m not creative argument. So just play along.
Imagine, you know you are creative. Check.
Imagine, you know how you are creative. Check.
But, there is one teeny tiny problem. You are suffering from some serious creative doubt. You lack confidence in yourself as a creative bad-ass.
So how to change that?
I can tell you to be a confident person, but we all know that doesn’t really do anything.
So how do you gain confidence?
Get over yourself. Stop doubting yourself. Stop worrying about what other people might think of your creativity. The truth is no one cares, and if they do and are assholes about it, you don’t need to care about them. I realize this tough talk is much easier said than actually carried out, so here are a few things you can actually do to build your creative confidence.
Practice, Practice, practice. Whether you are just starting out or have been at it for some time, there is no way around it. You can’t be confident without putting in the time. Well, technically you can be, but nobody likes those people. The more you practice, the more confident you will become. It’s as easy as that. But, truthfully, it isn’t easy. It’s not easy to make your creativity a priority daily or weekly, but if you want to see the results, then it’s the only way.
Practice until there is nothing else you can say besides I am good enough. “My creative is good enough.” Practice until that’s the only answer left.
I know what you are thinking, “okay smartie pants, I have been practicing for forever and I am still lack confidence.” Okay, then this idea if for you. I challenge you to make yourself uncomfortable. Like, really really uncomfortable. Like when you are stuck between two people having the most awkward conversation ever and you have no way out – that kind of uncomfortable.
Why make yourself uncomfortable? You will face a fear. You will force yourself to try something you had previously told yourself you could not or would not do. You most likely will learn something new about yourself, whether it is the fact that you can face your fear and still survive, or even just a new skill that you learn.
One of the best ways to get out of a rut is to try something new. By trying something new, you usually have to make yourself uncomfortable. It’s not fun to suck at something. Especially as an adult. We are used to being good at whatever it is that we do regularly, so it is definitely out of our comfort zone.
What makes you uncomfortable? This is different for everyone:
- Picking up the phone and calling someone.
- Signing up for a class so you can learn something new.
- Trying to make a new friend.
- Sharing your work with others
Trying something new is scary as shit, but if you ACTUALLY do it, what an amazing high. Then, you have to make yourself do something again, and again.
You can practice until you are blue in the face but if you don’t actually BELIEVE in yourself you are never going to feel confident in your craft, in your creative venture.
Fake it until you make it. Maybe you aren’t confident but if you were a confident person, what would your next step be? For example… If I were confident in my writing abilities, I would email this person and pitch them this great idea I have. I’m not confident in my writing abilities – I’m thinking that my writing isn’t good enough (yet), my website isn’t good enough (yet), so I probably should wait longer. No. If I were confident in those things, I would email, so that is what I am going to do. I’ll go ahead. The worst that can happen? They say no. I move on.
You need creative confidence. Whatever your next step is, you are going to be held back from taking it until you become confident in yourself, your skills, and your creativity. Whether that is going pro, sharing your work with the world, going somewhere and learning from someone, emailing someone + asking a question. Whatever it is, you need to build your creative confidence. This is not to say that you need to walk around thinking you are the best. But, you must know your creativity is good enough.